Lesson Two: Rejection is rejection

How naive was I when I started sending out query letters? So naive that I wrote an early blog entry about how good some rejection letters were.

Note to self: Rejection is rejection. The fact an agent uses nice words doesn't improve that. It's like the woman who nicely deflects a marriage proposal.

"But you are the one I want to spend the rest of my life with?"

"You are the best person I know, and the funniest, and the one with the best insight into who I am. But we just aren't made for each other. Good luck finding the right person. Good night."

Yeah, it's something like that.

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